She Rocks the Spectrum

Asking for What Helps

An accommodation is just a change that lets you do your best — the same way glasses help someone see. You don't have to disclose a diagnosis to ask for one; you can ask for the change itself. This helps you turn a vague 'I struggle with…' into a clear, askable request.

Need → barrier → request

For each setting that's relevant, name what's hard, what specifically gets in the way, and the small change that would help.

My requests

Work

• What's hard: ____________________
• The change that would help: ____________________

Healthcare

• What's hard: ____________________
• The change that would help: ____________________

Study / course

• What's hard: ____________________
• The change that would help: ____________________

Day-to-day

• What's hard: ____________________
• The change that would help: ____________________

Make it a script

Requests land better when they're specific and framed around doing good work, not around what's wrong with you.

Example: 'To do my best work, I focus much better with written instructions than verbal ones. Could you send tasks by email or message? It helps me get them right the first time.'

My work / study request, in my words

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My healthcare request (e.g. first appointment of the day, written summary, dimmed lights)

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Anticipate the response

If they say no or push back, my next step is…

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You're allowed to ask: A reasonable request isn't asking for special treatment — it's asking for access. Keep a copy of what you sent.