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Is This Going Somewhere?

Early dating can be a fog of excitement, anxiety, and second-guessing — especially if you mask or struggle to read situations. This is a quiet check-in with yourself, away from the other person, about what you actually want and notice.

What I'm looking for

Not a wishlist of traits — the way you want to feel and be treated.

In a relationship, I want to feel…

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My genuine deal-breakers

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Green flags

What tells you this might be good? Notice evidence, not just chemistry.

Often green

  • I can be more myself / mask less around them
  • They respect a no without sulking
  • Plans are clear; I'm not left guessing
  • Effort goes both ways
  • I feel calmer, not more anxious, over time

Green flags I've actually noticed

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Red / yellow flags

Things that have given me pause

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My pace

The pace that feels right to me
Rate from 0 (Slow & steady) to 10 (Fast & all-in): ____

One thing I want to say or ask for, sooner rather than later

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Trust the quiet read: Excitement and anxiety can feel the same in the body. How you feel in the calm hours — not just on a date — tells you a lot.

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