She Rocks the Spectrum

Pleasure Mapping

Most adults can't describe what feels good with much specificity. We use generic words ('soft,' 'gentle') that don't tell our partner anything. This worksheet builds your pleasure vocabulary — and gives you a structured way to share it.

Safety note: This worksheet is for consensual relationships where both partners can say yes, no, wait, or stop without punishment. Do not use this worksheet to pressure sexual activity. If there is fear, coercion, retaliation, active abuse, trauma flooding, pain, shutdown, or dissociation, pause and use this with a qualified therapist.

How to use this worksheet

Each partner fills their own copy. Privately. As honestly as you can. Trade and read silently. No discussion until you've both read it. Pick three things you've never said out loud. Star them in your partner's copy. Try one new thing this week from your starred list.

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Body zones — what works where

For each zone, write what works (and what doesn't).

Scalp / hair / face — touch type, pressure, kissing zones

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Neck / ears / throat — sensitive? Ticklish? What pressure?

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Shoulders / back — massage? Light tracing? Scratching?

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Chest / nipples / breasts — strong yes? Mild? Off-limits? When?

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Stomach / lower belly — light touch? Pressure? Avoid?

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Hips / inner thighs — on-ramp zone for many people

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Hands / wrists / fingers — often overlooked. What works here?

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Feet / legs — yes / no / depends

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Genital region — what touch, what pressure, what pace

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Other (write in) — any zone we missed

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Discussion & notes

Three things you didn't know feel that good: To either of you.

Something my partner does that I love but never named

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Something I want my partner to try

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A zone I want my partner to skip

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What we'll try this week

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